Wednesday, 8 February 2012

A bit of a ponder

If you read the same blogs as I do, you may well have read accounts of a lovely get together that happened last weekend at Tracy's house. She very kindly hosted a meeting of like minded bloggers, and it was, as ever, a treat and a privilege to spend time in the company of Tracy, Monica, Ali, Alice, Emma (special thanks for driving this country bumpkin down the the Big City), Nancy and Julie. We missed Kristina - but we all promised a repeat at some time. It was a truly magical day - huge hugs and thank yous to all of you.

At one point the conversation turned to "How long do you think you'll keep blogging for? Will you know when there's an end point?" As we pondered, someone very fairly commented that really, I have already stopped blogging, and I suppose to all intents and purposes that's true. I seem to have got out of the habit of responding to those of you kind enough to comment here, and I leave fewer and fewer comments on other blogs, neither of which are habits I'm proud of. I didn't even have a camera with me on Saturday, for goodness' sake.


But here's the rub - I still think of myself as a blogger. This space has given me so much pleasure, and brought so many friendships both real life and virtual that I would feel lost without it. It's been a place where I have recorded important parts of my life - admittedly not the grotty bits, but I doubt they'd make for interesting reading. I started Dottycookie in 2007 when I was still working and when my children were really tiny. Now they're older and my blogging time is stolen by homework and after school activities and cooking (they actually eat these days, which is a blessed relief). I think I actually spend more time making "stuff" but less time photographing it. Through this blog and the people I've "met" I found the courage to finally sell things I'd made, and while it's a small turnover, it is steady and that brings me great joy.

I think perhaps I haven't stopped blogging, just slowed down. Maybe this year I'll post more, maybe  I won't but I think for me that feels fine - your blog is what you want it to be and the people who like it and connect with it are more than likely people you'll want to spend time with, whether that's online or in someone's kitchen eating salad and cake. And those people are the ones who do get to see the messy bits behind the sparkly colourful photos - just like in "real life".

28 comments:

  1. I feel the same Val. I really don't have the urge to post or to share things I make as much anymore but that doesn't mean I'm stopping either. I think our children are about the same age and when i started blogging it was very much about gaining some me time with two very little people underfoot. Now they're a bit older, I don't "need" to blog the same way I used to...

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  2. You're right to do what feels good for you Val and you'll always find a warm welcome any time you pop in here. Blogging is a funny old thing - sometimes it comes easily and other times there doesn't seem to be time to take pictures and write posts. I'm proud to call you a real life friend as well as a on-line bloggy one but I'd miss your posts here if you ever went away for good x

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  3. As you know, I've been feeling exactly the same and I think losing the pressure to blog was a difficult thing. I think we've transcended the virtual nature of blogging now and that suits me just fine : )
    SO good to see you x

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  4. As is probably obvious from my blogging frequency, I don't really put any pressure on myself to blog regularly. I like blogging, though, in that I do not know any 'real life' crafters, so this way I get to have a conversation with other people who like to craft, too.

    I have been atrocious at keeping up with comments and reading others' blogs lately, mind.

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  5. I think it is quite possible that blogs have a natural shelf life - mine is certainly less part of my life than it once was. But like you I am still a blogger and wouldn't be without the friends I have made through it for anything! Don't leave us just yet! Lucy xx

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  6. If blogging becomes a chore then take a break. The good thing is that with goggle reader we will all know when you put up a new post. But don't stop completely because I like reading what you're up to and seeing what you're making.

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  7. Oh your bloggy meet up sounded such fun!! I'm blogging very little, not sure why, no rhyme or reason, just out of the groove really! But I's miss it if I stopped completely - and I'd certainly miss you if you stopped, so please don't!!

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  8. What a lovely post - and so very good to meet you finally at the weekend.

    My favourite blogs are always my favourite blogs no matter how frequently or infrequently they post. Once I realised that I felt quite liberated. I still like blogging regularly, but goodness me my blog has changed and evolved over the past five years!

    N xx

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  9. I have been the same these last few months, sometimes it's good to look at life for it's own enjoyment and not as a blogpost but I miss it and feel I should make more time for it but am unsure how I can shoe horn more in. Thank goodness for google reader, even after weeks or months the people that choose to 'follow' us will know we are there. xxx

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  10. I started in 2006 when I was made redundant and like you the children were younger and life was very different. The connection made with other creative people through blogging is so special, and to meet up in real life must be the icing on the cake.

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  11. Nancy's right - my favourite blogs are still my favourite. I'm glad you're a blogger and doubly glad to know you in real life.

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  12. Couldnt have said it better myself. I have slowed down but still love reading others and still feel part of the bloggy community. I wouldnt have missed it and have made some lovely friends. Xx

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  13. I'm in the same mode (as you probably already know:)
    I mainly keep it up to update friends and family near and far and as a record to keep for my projects and more often than not, for my children. I'm a hopeless scrapbook and photo album keeper so I hope I never accidentally lose my blog down some unexplainable techno black hole - yikes!
    It sounds like a fantastic day with bloggy friends, what fun to meet up.

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  14. I think everyone has slowed down a bit (sometimes I wonder if some have maybe defected to facebook and pinterest) -- there's so much more online to take our attentions. I think we go through cycles too -- sometimes our real life is just busier than others. You must do what works for you -- that's what makes blogs so wonderful!!! (And did I already tell you how envious I am of the get-together? Yes. I thought so LOL!)

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  15. I think that once a blogger, always a blogger, even if you don't actually blog, it sort of invades your genes.

    and anyway you can't give up, I'd have to rewrite my recipe book and Val cookies doesn't have quite have the same resonance x

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  16. I'm glad you still see yourself as a blogger; I have missed you posting as often.

    Also, everything that Thimbleanna sais.

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  17. That's the great thing about blogs. You can blog ten times a day or once a month (or less), and it doesn't matter, you're still a blogger. The only time I stop will be if it becomes a chore.
    Amanda
    Planetcoops
    (Blogger doesn't like Wordpress accounts any more - If you have word verification on it tells me I've got it wrong, and won't publish my comment!)

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  18. Whatever you choose to do is OK. If you continue, I'll be reading. I'm just so grateful that we meet regularly and have become real life friends. If you choose to stop I'll still get to chat to you about crafts and put the world to rights. What could be better?

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  19. I think I understand what you mean about blogging. As wonderful as it is -- e.g., 'meeting' great people (like you ;), finding amazing amounts of inspiration, & acting as my journal (since I can not bring myself to write in a traditional joural) and so much more, it's just so darned time consuming. Like you, I want to spend more of my time actually making things rather than looking at them online. Well anyway, slowing down is okay, isn't it? Hope you don't disappear completely, but the most important thing is doing what's best for you!
    Blessings,
    G

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  20. Very interesting. Blogging has changed my life. I blogged once so much about personal stuff then more about crafting, now what I make is my living... but I cant blog enough and I am so poor and returning comments but I LOVE READING BLOGS, its the same blogs I have read for years now... How fab to have a meet up, I am the only blogger amongst my friends and they all think I am nuts!!!

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  21. You were one of my first real blogging friends and you'll always feel like a friend and a blogger to me.

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  22. Drop in to Blogland whenever you feel like it - we will all be here sitting around chatting about this and that - you know that you are always welcome. We will shuffle up to make more room around the table, Tracy will make another pot of tea and Emma will open her vintage tin and share out the cupcakes to celebrate.

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  23. Yes - I actually post more now because I'm retired and I can't imagine ever stopping but - who knows? Things change. It's always nice to read your blog anyway.

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  24. I think that like you say, blogging is what you want it to be. It is your personal space and should not be a pressure. I try not to apologise if I do not have time to blog as I don't feel I should really as the blog I created is my space :-)

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  25. I think you should blog as often or as little as you want. I am just the same, but i don't want to give up my blog :)

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  26. Oh I can so relate to everything you've said.

    I was so sad to miss the big get-together but very much hoping there will indeed be a repeat!

    K x

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  27. I think if slowing down fits your life, Val, then that's the right pace, and no need to feel pressure about it. I stopped altogether for about a year and a half - I didn't intend to, and I wish I had posted something that said "be back later when it feels right." But I still think blogging can be enriching, fun, and a wonderful place to make friends you would never have been able to meet otherwise.

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  28. YOU know what feels right and what is right. And I think of you as a friend. Not just a blog-friend... so you ain't getting rid of me too easily!!

    xx

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