Wednesday, 23 January 2008

Awkward silences

I've been away with work for a couple of days, staying in a very lovely country house hotel (what a treat!) It was a gorgeous sunny morning, crisp and slightly foggy so I went off for a walk around the grounds after breakfast, met a friendly cat, tromped through some mud and still had half an hour before the meeting starts. I could get used to this! I'm afraid I committed the cardinal crime of leaving my camera behind, and couldn't get the pics off my phone (technically incompetent) so here's one of the primroses cheering up the garden.


I had a slightly awkward conversation with some work colleagues last night - for some reason the topic turned to blogs - none of them write one and there was a lot of "I can't understand how anyone would want to do that!" I took the cowardly way out and said nothing, even when their scorn turned to incredulity - "I found out my neighbour writes a blog about her knitting patterns - good grief! Some people have too much time on their hands! They must be complete exhibitionists." How could I explain? Should I have tried to? Alice wrote about something similar recently; I wonder how many other "secret" bloggers are out there. Would you have said something?


Anyway, as I mentioned last week, along with many of you I was lucky enough to receive some awards recently - thank you to Gina, Tess, Lesley and Anna! I am very slow off the mark here, as many of you have already had these; I am going to cheat and copy Gina's neat solution to passing these on, which is that if I have commented on your blog then you certainly qualify to receive any or all of them. Especially if you are a covert blogger too!


I am supposed to write seven weird things about myself now - I've done a few lists like this recently so I'm a bit low on ideas and anyway, I probably reveal far more than seven of these on a regular basis ;-) About the only thing I can think of is that I LOATHE baked beans. I used to love them, but then I had them when I was pregnant and now I can't stand the smell of them. It does make life with a 5- and 3-year old quite interesting ...

27 comments:

  1. On the secret blogger thing I tend to only tell certain people if I think they'll understand. I haven't broadcast it to family just in case!!!
    I'd probably have done just what you did as I think some folk will just never get it!

    I'm glad you forgot the camera as I love your primroses :)

    Lesley xx

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  2. Beautiful primroses - aren't they lovely?

    Congratulations on the awards too - very much deserved.

    As for covert blogging - some of my friends know I do it, some don't. I don't advertise it, I must admit - it's something for 'me', and the people I have 'met' through it have made me so glad I do it.

    Take care. x

    PS I went off parsnips big time when I was pregnant with No.1 - haven't been able to face another one eversince. :-(

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  3. I know exactly what you mean about the blogging conversation. Like Lesley, I tend to keep quiet unless I think there is understanding. I haven't told any of my friends about my blog and only my immediate family (hubby and daughters know). I have a sense other folk won't get it, yet I have found such joy and creative stimulation through craft blogland.

    Thank you for what you share. You certainly deserve the awards.

    Sheila xx

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  4. Kitty: I can even ignore the slugholes in the primroses, I just adore them. I used to have lots of brightly coloured polyanthus around, but I replaced them all with pale yellow primroses and keep the bright ones for pots on the doorstep. Love them!

    Sheila: Thank you for your lovely comment. It is a relief to know others feel the same way!

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  5. I'm happy to be a secret blogger, and I think that probably only other bloggers "get it", the comments on Alice's post were interesting, there's a variety of feeling, but most seem happiest to keep it as a seperate private world....

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  6. I'm going to buck the trend here and say that I do talk quite openly about my blog even to those people who look at me strangely (ok, so that's the way they look at me normally!) The thing is, blogland has given me such a confidence boost both personally and creatively so I am quite proud to talk about it!

    Lucy xx

    P.S. I went off Earl Grey tea (which I had previously loved) when I was pregnant with No.1 11 years ago and I am only just coming round to it again. And I cannot bear Heinz (or any other tinned brand) tomato soup after eating it when recuperating from having 4 wisdom teeth extracted!

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  7. I think I would have kept schtum about it in front of my work colleagues too. Can't be bothered with challenging the prejudices of people who just don't get it.

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  8. You are not alone in blogging in secret, other than those in our house only 2 others know and they are family! They all find it weird so I just assumed everyone else would too.

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  9. I'm glad you brought that up! It's an odd situation and I've had to endure the "who would be so sad as to keep a blog" conversation with friends. I have to admit that until starting mine I did associate the word "blog" with lonely cat ladies and troubled teenagers pouring out their emotions for all to read but craft blogging is definitely different.
    Only my parents (and to my horror two of their friends- thanks, mother!)know about the blog and I hope it stays that way :) I have very close friends who I am sure would understand but the fewer people who know the easier it is to keep it secret.
    An etsy shop is different as you can argue that "it's just to make money" but there's something a bit embarrassing (especially for a 20 year old) about admitting to your friends that you write about yourself and your 'old lady hobbies' and get to know people via the internet alone. I get teased enough for joining the university knitting society!

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  10. I agree with Ali, some people just seem to enjoy being scornful about things they know nothing about..My entire family know because my Mum keeps giving my blog address to people, I did mind a little to start with (especially at the thought of My Grandad reading it, for gods' sake!) so in recent posts I have been aware of that, I guess. But equally I think it has probably helped people get to know 'the real me' a bit more (whether that's a good thing or not...)I started initially because I am writing a book and was suffering confidence issues such as 'who the hell would ever want to read this' etc.The blog thing has seriously boosted my self confidence as well as make some wonderful new friends.Thing I have talked enough now!!(bet you wish you'd never mentioned it!)

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  11. When I went to the Yarnstorm book launch at the Persephone bookshop I showed a colleague the Yarnstorm blog. She was very impressed - but I had a sense that the published book validated the web blog.

    Which is why I didn't tell her about my blog!

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  12. What an interesting discussion and oh my, what a dilemma! I'm afraid my face would have turned red! My family and close friends all know about my blog, but I've worked pretty hard to keep it from coworkers. They definitely wouldn't understand. And that's just fine by me!

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  13. Congratulations on the awards you deserve them all...As for the blogging...Oh I could feel you gringe from here, so would I. How people are so quick to judge. Most of my friends know I blog, I have a few close friends that read it most days infact have a few words with me if I don't blog often enough or I get a little boring...the others....well they just don't get it and you know I am fine with that...I would write differently if I knew they read it, I like the space to be the real me not what they would like to read. So blog with pride my girl...

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  14. I'm with Ali on this one too. I really can't be bothered with the small-mindedness of some people.
    I'm very protective over my blog and haven't ever given anyone other than other bloggers my site.
    It's been such a revelation to share my interests with you all and get inspiration by the bucketload as part of the deal.

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  15. I'm with you on the baked beans! I've only told my best friend that I blog and she is sworn to secrecy! My immediate family know of course as they feature heavily in it and I do ask if they mind me mentioning certain things. I find it makes me less self conscious about what I write and I have discovered so many people that feel the way I do about lots of things that now I don't worry so much what non-bloggers might think.
    Congrats on your awards by the way!!!
    Kimx

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  16. oooh, spring must be on the way - lovely primroses. I'd have stayed quiet too but probably would have given it away with a very big blush - curse the english complexion which gives me away every time! Glad you enjoyed your break

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  17. Congratulations on getting all those awards - you deserve them.

    Had a chuckle at the blog conversation your colleagues were having and just to reassure you I would definately have kept quiet too. Infact, no-one around here knows I have a blog and I'm keen to keep it like that - but I don't know why!

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  18. my friends say pretty much the same thing to me...and I am sure they all think I'm some kind of freak for blogging, but d'you know what? I DON'T CARE!!! :)
    I know my mum secretly reads mine but never comments (I don't think she knows how) and one of her friends that I have never met also reads it. So I can never put anything secret on there.

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  19. I read Alice's post on this, too, and think it's interesting that I, also, have told very few people about blogging. Other than my husband, I've only told some people whose pictures I wanted to include, and I was pretty sure that most of them didn't really know what blogs were, so might not be judgmental. At some point I'll probably let my sisters in on it, but not just yet.

    (And beautiful primroses!)

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  20. Very interesting post, I can well imagine your squirms, I have been in a similar position. I have told one or two people but no family members I regret a little the people I have told, makes me sometimes conscious of what I write. I always thought I was quite an open person but in fact it seems I am pretty private (in spite of the whole blog thing!) and prefer to keep quite a lot of myself back.

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  21. Dragonfly: It is amazing how much inspiration you can get from reading what other people are up to - my creative output has gone up hugely since I've seen all the other brilliant things people have made and wanted to have a go myself!

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  22. Ginnie: My family do know about this one, and they do read it so they can see what we're up to. A few friends know about it, but oddly enough, mostly people who don't live locally - strange, that!

    I'm glad you like the primroses - we have daffodils now too!

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  23. I'm a mixed blogger. I think it depends on the company, although I'm sure there are a few folks who know who think I'm a complete whacko! :-)

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  24. Congratulations on the well-deserved awards! I can understand you kept silent about the blog-stuff. People who don’t blog often don’t get it.

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  25. Congrats on your awards. Very jealous that you have primroses in your garden. We have no flowers or greenery to look forward to until at least March...possibly April!

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  26. I was so relieved to read about secret blogging ... when I told a friend of mine that I had started a blog, she said "you need to get a life" ... well i'm not a naturally social person so it was quite a big thing for me, and her comment discouraged me and made me not want to tell anyone else! So I haven't. But I'm still trying to post most days because I find it very motivating to get things done and made. Perhaps a support group should be set up: "Bloggers Annonymous" .. LoL.

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  27. MarmaladeKiss: BloggersAnonymous - love it! As long as the meetings involve cake ...

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